The essence

Deep rooted within the spirits of a man lies his ego;the ego he worships,the ego he loves,the ego that means 'I',the ego that truly drives him......
Lost in the rat race of life,a man often wonders if he is right or wrong,in every small decision he makes,and sometimes,he faces regret while sometimes it is pride that he owns it should neither be pride nor should it be regret.
Not regret because no decision is ever wrong,what is wrong are the implicactions ! At the moment the decision and if it is itself that makes it,it has to be right at the moment it was made.
Not pride because every decision is made to achieve some type of success and having pride would be equal to doubting one's own abilities.
In either case it is the self that is affected.
'Ego' is what I call self-love.Now it seems underogatory,does not it? But the important point we are missing out is why are we demoting Egoism? What is so wrong about it? A clear distinction needs to be made between a an egoism and a selfishness.
Why are children in school taught not to be egocentric?

Ego or 'Self Love' as I describe it is what is the TRUE essence of life.

People work on a job for years,spending those years wondering whether what they did was what they wanted to.They search for wealth,on finding it,they search for more of it;After finding more of it,they search for peace of mind and this search continues for ever.The reason being "Satisfaction of Ego is peace of mind" and we cannot be egoistics right.Thats what I remember reading in those self- development books.
Ego is not only the goal we want to achieve,but ego itself is the means to achieve this goal and every other goal we set for ourselves.Money,power,position are motivations and there are no doubts about it,but the underlying fact remains that these are just means to titillate the ego.

"The search for true motivation ends,where it begins-in SELF"


Dhimant Negandhi
24th December 2005.